WHAT IS SUCCESS???
It is not all financial
Success is when you feel at ease with yourself, when you earn enough to sleep well at nights, when your close relationships are good and you are a positive influence on those around you. When you can deal with adversity and plan for the future. For me success is also achieving self-control, defeating procrastination and feeling motivated and passionate about my life and work

Bridging Tip : How to keep a conversation going
Bridging Tip : How to keep a conversation goingYou know the situation you are unexpectedly introduced to someone potentially important to you, you exchange a few politenesses, then there is an embarrassed pause and one of you moves on; the moment is lost. Bridging is a valuable technique used by salesmen to keep conversations going. Here are the main bridges:-

Meaning...?
For Example...?
So then...?
Therefore...?
Then You...?
Which means...?

How it works :-
You start be asking them say what their job is, they answer, you ask them whether they like their job, they answer briefly or uninterestedly you then need a bridging response eg "Which means...?". Keep using bridging responses until you hit one of their buttons, they will then talk enthusiastically, you will then know enough about to ask interesting questions.

Try this on a friend or colleague first until you get the knack of it, also remember the Tip "Be interested not interesting!!

Use your Pain or Failure as a Motivator
Use your Pain or Failure as a MotivatorLots of people only succeed when something bad happens to them, they were sacked or had a bad illness. In my case I dropped out of college I had to repeat my studies at my own expense, but I found when started my career I was burning with desire to catch up and exceed.

What pain or rejection have you suffered? What pain can you use to fuel your success? Remember how much more difficult it is for the "comfortable" to leave their rut.

Get Your Life Back on Track
Hey you are not alone!
Lots of people go thru this stage, only a lucky few have continuous success throughout their life, the trick is to do and want to something about it. It's encouraging that you've recognised the problem and are researching solutions.

Of course it doesn't take 5 minutes to get your life back on track and you risk going through some bad times as you leave your comfort zone and even times when you appear to be going backwards. The rewards for success and for your self esteem are immense however so why not start that journey today!

Do Not Ignore Mental Reminders
When your memory reminds you to need to phone someone, put a document in your briefcase for tomorrow, don't just think "I must do that later" because unfortunately your subconscious tends to think it's done its job and may not bother to remind you a second time! I always imagine that if you don't act immediately that your subconscious sulks and thinks well I did warn him but he didn't seem to think it important. This virtually obliges us to deal with things immediately and then, if it is not convenient/possible to complete the task there and then you must all the same take an action, eg diary it, create a post-it note etc.

Decision Making
The worst decision of all is to make "No Decision" when one is urgently required. So whenever you are required to make a difficult decision weigh up all the evidence as best you can and then choose what seems the best option. There is no point in worrying if you have chosen the right decision that is part of normal risk taking.
Progress may be Imperceptible for a Long Time
For a long time progress in a new venture may appear imperceptible, in fact right until just before it takes off it is easy to despair. This is very common occurrence, unfortunately many give up just before this happens.
Who are You?
What are your Skills and Experience?
Everyone is a unique cocktail of life and work experience, knowledge and skills. Most people also have limiting self-beliefs or conflicting ambitions. The trick is to discover what combination of doubts and skills are holding you back, to discover what are the missing ingredients of your success. Sportsmen have become successful after many years of mediocrity by making one change to their game. Businessmen by changing one product or one aspect of their marketing. Of course it requires massive amounts of self-belief in the preceding years, but that's why all the Self-Improvement books keep on and on about the power of positive thinking!

"The greatest conflicts are not between two people, but between one person and himself." Garth Brooks

Assertion or Negotiation Technique "The Broken Record"
This is the important ability to keep rephrasing your request until you have countered every objection and get agreement from the other party. This is very difficult for passive people, overly logical people and those brought up to be polite. Before going for a pay rise interview make a list of likely objections then jot down a longer list of reasons why you deserve a pay rise.

The trick is to keep coming back to the same point without appearing to be rude or boorish just persistent. Surprisingly people will respect you for this.

Keep practicing the Broken Record technique.
Breaking a Bad Habit
Is it even possible to break a bad habit?
I've been working on eliminating a bad habit I've had since I remember. I've been using the success techniques I've learned or developed to do this. I've has some success, but notice it comes back when ever I'm stressed. Getting rid of ingrained habits is tough.

I'm using two techniques:-

1) Giving getting rod of my bad habit top-priority!

2) Not punishing myself if I yield to my bad habit, but not rewarding myself either; that a

I know this is going to take time, but the satisfaction I'll have when I finally beat it will be immense.

The Five Minutes More Trick
The Five Minutes More Rule
When you are about to abandon a task because you've had enough or feel you aren't getting any where or are just bored then try applying the "5 minute Rule". Say to yourself I will stick at it for just 5 minutes more and then I can give up or take a break.

At the worst you get 5 minutes work done and at the best you will have found a second wind, got focused and become productive.

Remember the other 5 minute rule that we often want to give up a task after 5 minutes, 5 minutes into writing an essay or starting a run that's the danger time before we've warmed to the task before we see any progress, you can use the five-minute rule to help you through this discouraging phase.

                                                                Life, changes, enjoying.

CORRECTION OF TONGUE, IT'S NORTH AMERICA NOT SOUTH AMERICA..... Going for your dreams, encouraging people to go for their dream.

1. Avoid nagging: This is the age old NO-NO. A marriage can never be on smooth tracks if either of you is in the habit of nagging. If an important issue has to be dealt with, it can be done firmly without repeating and re-repeating.
    
2. Avoid arguments on in-laws: This is definitely a very sensitive topic. Always steer clear if you want peace to prevail. Each partner is always on the defensive where his/her relatives are concerned. So, why tread on thin ice?
    
3. Give gifts: There's no better 'bribe' than a gift. Be it, fights, love statements, thank you, birthday, anniversary, Valentine Day, etc there's a gift for every occasion.

4. Show your pleasure / appreciation when given gifts: Remember to thank the person on receiving the gift. Think of all the time and effort taken in having gone out and purchased that gift. There may be times when you do not think highly of the gift, but please even if you have to fake it - show your appreciation. It'll actually bring a smile on the person's face.
    
5. Avoid detailed questioning about work, business etc: Be there for your partner if s/he needs you, but don't add on to the pressure.
    
6. Try and identify stressful phases: Make yourself available to your partner at such times.
    
7. Prepare favourite dishes on and off: A good meal can bring anyone in a great mood. And, while the way to his heart may be through his stomach... she is no different!
    
8. In an argument check your temper: Things said in anger leave an indelible impression. Even if you regret your words later, you can't take them back. So, think twice before you say something.
    
9. Let there be a balance between give and take: It's all about reciprocity. You give some, you get some. If either of you is a giver or a taker only, the balance will be lost.
    
10. Take holidays: Take a break from work and go for a holiday to spend some time together, away from the daily rigmarole. It will rejuvenate your relationship, trust us!

5 Things Women Love to Hear   

  'You're looking gorgeous today' or 'You're the best' are definitely some things women love to hear but this is not it. If you are newly in love and have no idea what women love to hear, don't you worry! There's lots more you can tell your woman than just complimenting her. We list down 5 things women can never get tired of hearing...

•  'You look beautiful'
   There are two things women can't live without - Great food and compliments. Don't trust us? Everytime you meet her, woo her with a shower of compliments. Say all that she's been dying to hear and see the magic. She'll do anything you say. Try this, especially the day you think she's in a mood to fight.  
   
• 'You are the best thing that ever happened to me'
  This will assure your woman that you are a 'one woman man' and that you really love her. It's important to build trust in a relationship and that's possible only when you keep reminding her that she means a lot to you and that she's the best thing that ever happened to you. But yes, say it only if you mean it and if you are looking forward for a long term relationship with her so that she never questions your loyalty.
   
• 'You're also my best friend'
  If she's your girlfriend doesn't mean she can't be your best friend. Any girlfriend would expect her partner to share his secerts or feelings with his woman and there's nothing wrong in it. So, if she really is your best friend, nothing like it. But if she's not, you can still tell her that, she'll like it, trust us! You just need to convince her that she's the first person you look upto in times of trouble.
  
  
• 'I am lucky to have you in my life'
  It's important for you to express your feelings to her. Tell her that she is the only one for you and that you're really lucky to have her in your life. Say things like, you've always wanted a partner like her who's understanding and loving. Women love to hear all this, trust us! And don't be surprised if you find her blushing.
   
• 'I love you' 
  These three magical words can work wonders. All you got to do is say this every day at least once. If you're a shy person, may be you've tried expressing your love in a different way but try saying this to her in person and see how much of a difference it makes. Women place much more importance to these three magical words. But, of course the time and place has to be right. 
  

10 Signs He Would Be a Terrible Boyfriend 
  You saw him for the first time at a party and it was love at first sight? If yes, we suggest you first get to know him and then express your feelings to him. May must be good looking but that doesn't mean he can be a good boyfriend. Here are 10 signs that mean he would turn out to be a terrible boyfriend...

1. You say you're not keeping well and he doesn't even bother to call you back after a few hours or send you some flowers with a Get Well Soon note in it the next day. God forbid you really needed serious taking care of, you wouldn’t want to have to rely on him.
    
2. You love sharing every little thing with him but he never remembers what you told him the previous day, especially about your friends and family. May be, he's got some hearing problem or he's just not interested in what you say.
   
    
3. It's difficult for you to get through him and he always has excuses to give like "I lost my phone or my phone was on silent mode" or he gets back to you saying, "I'm in the middle of something or my parents are around, can't talk now," etc. Just cross him off the list as your emergency contact.  
    
4. A boyfriend should know how to make his GF feel better when she's upset. But, this guy doesn’t know how to comfort you and prefers to leave you alone. You obviously expect your partner to be there for you emotionally, but he doesn't understand that. What's the use of having him in your life, when he's not there for you in times of trouble? 
    
5. He's an extremely boring person and never makes special plans for the two of you even when it's his day off at work. He always only expects you to come up with ideas. It might seem fine in the beginning, but later it'll only ruin your mood, trust us!
   
6. You're tired of telling him that you're hungry, but he doesn't bother to even ask you, "What do you want to eat? or Should we stop at a restaurant?" He instead chooses to ignore you and stops at a restaurant after an hour or so and why? Just because he's hungry. 
    
7. At a restaurant, he decides what he wants to eat and places the order without even asking you if you want something. He probably doesn’t care about how hungry you are.
    
8. He never finds it important to discuss important things with you or take your advice for certain things — like where he’s going to move next, or whether or not to get his pet along with him inspite of knowing that you’re allergic to him. 
    
9. If you ask him to change his behavior, he changes the topic or says things like, "So? that's not my problem." Resolving issues with this person will be like chasing your tail for all eternity.
    
10. He is absolutely irresponsible with money matters and doesn't think twice before spending after unwanted things, but refuses to accept that. Don't even think of settling down with a man like him, or you'll land up in trouble.